yards

I was talking with my 8 year old step daughter today,as she struggles with
loyalty to herself and others.She asked me some things that left me in the midst
of fast self assessment.When I had to explain why people got mad when they were getting help from other people.The best i could come up with was yards.
I told her we all had a yard of our own,that we could mess up with as much clutter as we dared.We could plant flowers or leave it bare it was up to us.The wind would blow things into it but not nesicarely blow things out,so it was our responsibility to keep it clean.Not for others but for our own prides sake.
I then began to explain, how, when people clean their yard other people see them 
and watch to see how they do it.Thats how we learn and get insperation.Some people do as little as they can while others plant beautiful gardens with amazing flowers.Then i began to tell her that as people clean their yards, if they don't try, and others start to notice and help.Because as people we should help others.Then sometimes the people get upset when the helpers are noticed and given a hardy thank you and a congratulations for helping.Well now as the one that was helped got mad,and began to focus on the helpers yard his own yard was getting dirtyer.And filled with more and more clutter.Till pretty soon all that person could do was to point at others so his bad yard wasn't noticed.The moral of the story is to clean your own yard,and help others when you can.But you cant help what others do in their yard.Just make your yard as clean as you can and only let in the good of the world.Even then you will still have days that weeds have to be pulled and work has to be done,because the only thing constant is change.